Have you ever been asked a question that made you think that the person asking you isn’t interested in your answer as much as they were wanting validation to what they believe?
Why do you go to church? This is a question I get and most of the time it’s someone who is looking to validate their own belief. Why do I go church? The answer is both easy and complicated. The easy answer is, it makes me feel better.
I also ask a follow up question when someone asks me if I go to church. I ask them if they go to the gym and if they say yes, I ask them why and the answers are usually the same. I also go to the gym I have been going to the gym several times a week for 20+ years.
I go to the gym / church because it makes me feel better.
I go to the gym / church because it keeps me fresh, I get a new idea or feeling each time I go.
I go to the gym / church because I want long term results.
I go to the gym / church because I like self discipline, I like the fact that it’s sometimes hard to do.
I go to the gym / church because I like the people, the relationships and that we are all trying to be better.
I go to the gym / church because I believe in the results.
I respect another person’s ability to have a different belief, but I appreciate that belief when I see it, or it comes with thought. You can ask me why I go to the gym or to church, but if you don’t go, my answers aren’t going to validate your question or make you feel better about why you choose not to.
I appreciate it more, when I know what you stand for. When you don’t go to the gym, because you don’t think it matters and you ask me why I go, I will tell you why it matters to me. When people ask me, why I look healthy and happy, I will tell them why it matters, I will tell them what I stand for.